10 Things I Learned at 19

At 19, life demanded more honesty, boundaries, and self-love than I had ever imagined. Through trial and reflection, I uncovered ten lessons that transformed the way I navigate relationships, self-worth, and faith. These truths are for anyone striving to live authentically and intentionally. Let these reflections inspire you to reclaim your energy, trust your intuition, and embrace the growth that comes with life’s challenges.

1. Always Be Honest with Yourself

The hardest truths are the ones we hide from ourselves. Growth begins with honesty—acknowledging what’s within and around you, even when it’s uncomfortable. You can’t heal or change what you won’t face. Owning your truth helps you not only mend what’s broken but also strengthens your ability to be truthful with others.

2. Boundaries Are a Necessity, Not a Luxury

Boundaries protect your peace and foster healthy relationships. They’re not selfish; they’re self-preservation. Setting and communicating your boundaries may feel challenging, but it prevents resentment and safeguards your well-being. As they say, “Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.”

3. Know Your Worth—and Never Give Discounts

Your worth is not negotiable. It isn’t tied to others’ opinions or external achievements. Value yourself, and don’t settle for people or situations that undermine your magic. When you let go of mediocrity, you create space for extraordinary things to enter your life.

4. Love Alone Is Never Enough

True love requires respect, kindness, and mutual effort. Don’t let your love for someone blind you to mistreatment. As 1 Corinthians 13:4 reminds us, love should never come at the cost of your dignity. When respect is no longer served, love yourself enough to walk away.

5. Your Intuition Never Lies

Your gut instinct is a gift—listen to it. Often, your body senses things long before your mind catches up. Trust those uneasy feelings; they’re your internal compass guiding you away from harm and toward what’s right.

6. Focus on the Reality of People, Not the Idea of Them

People are not their words; they’re their actions. Stop clinging to who someone used to be or the potential you see in them. Accept people as they are, and if their reality doesn’t align with your values or needs, have the courage to let go.

7. Be Intentional About Who Has Access to You

Your energy is your greatest resource—guard it fiercely. Not everyone deserves access to you. Surround yourself with people who uplift, inspire, and energise you. Pay attention to how you feel after spending time with someone and adjust their access to you accordingly.

8. Love From the Overflow

You can’t pour into others when your own cup is empty. Prioritise filling yourself emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. When you care for yourself first, all your relationships benefit, and you resist burnout. Thriving starts with you.

9. Do Not Lose Faith

Faith is what carries you through the storms of life. Believe in something bigger than yourself, and trust in God’s plan. As Mark 9:23 says, “Everything is possible for those who believe.” Keep your faith strong; it will anchor you when nothing else makes sense.

10. Self-Care Is More Than a Bubble Bath

True self-care goes beyond the surface. It’s about doing the hard inner work: confronting your flaws, setting boundaries, living by your values, and holding yourself accountable. It’s a commitment to showing up for yourself every day—not just on Self-Care Sundays.

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